Gifts That Speak to My Heart

I’m going to let you in on a little thing I have a hard time with, sometimes.
Feeling like a woman.
Not to go all Shania Twain or anything, but let’s face it.  Because my husband is paralyzed, and just isn’t able to do somethings, I do them.
Some of these things are things that would traditionally fall on “the man.”
Like fixing things, building things, lifting things, reaching things, driving, you get the picture.

I do all of that.

Also, because of our situation – and the fact that every time we go anywhere, I literally have to lift Mr. Wonderful up and put him in our SUV, and lift the wheelchair and put it in, I NEVER wear skirts.  I NEVER wear heels.

Add all of this up, and sometimes, I just don’t feel very girly anymore.
Not that I was ever a really, really girly girl, but anyway.
It’s not something I dwell on a lot, but it is something that can be aggravating at times.

Enter my Christmas gifts from my husband this year.
A collection of lip glosses.
A collection of perfumes.
And the darling little box pictured above.  A handmade, super girly box to put my wedding rings in.  My rings are hand-me-downs from my Granny, and they’ve never had a box.  So, at home, they are often just sitting around. Michael just noticed that, and got me this box on Etsy.


I felt so loved as I was putting my Christmas presents away.
This is how my man sees me.
As a woman.
As a lady.
Who is pretty.
And smells good.
And needs a place to put her shiny diamond rings.

Not as a grubby taxi driver/handyman/maid/nurse.
I needed that gift most of all.
And, he didn’t even know that.

The beautiful thing about gifts is that they all speak.  They all say something.
And I loved to hear what these Christmas presents told me.

8 thoughts on “Gifts That Speak to My Heart

  1. Wow. Love that. Like you said, it’s even more special that you hadn’t whined/complained/nagged (what I can tend to do in similar situations :) about not feeling girly & what not, but he did it cause that’s how he sees you. Sweeter gift than the actual items, for sure.

  2. What a beautiful gift to be able to say all of that without saying anything at all! Happy Holidays!! P.S….I have the same issue with the skirts/heels and lifting the wheelchair, and keep in mind I don’t dress up too often, but the easiest solution I have found (aside from not wearing them) is spandex bike sorts/leggins and a bag of flats! I have a drawer full of leggins that I wear under anything I can get away with and if they just don’t work I wear the shorts (which I bought specifically to wear under things NOT exercise lol and CVS carries flats in a bag that I just throw in the car if we are out and I have heels on…not the most flattering footwear but they work!)

  3. Great perspective. Sometimes I feel when we get ready to go somewhere, by the time we leave the house, Matt looks great and I look haggard. :( I tell him if I looked great everyday he wouldn’t appreciate it as much. So my looking not so put together 6 days a week is for his benefit. Lol!

  4. Seriously! When people say something to Michael about how good he looks or how glad they are to see him wherever. I just smile, and I’m like “Phew! You have no idea what it took to get him here!” Haha. I think sometimes people can look at me and tell that I’m just ready to fall asleep whenever we get to where we are going!

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